Why am I Depressed? Understand Depression Symptoms and Get the Help to Lift Depression Fast.

Effective and safe online therapy sessions that help you to step out of depression, get your energy back and feel better fast.


Book a session today and begin your journey to healthy happier life.

While online therapy is a great option for most people, it is not suitable for all. Is online therapy is suitable for you?

Let’s talk about depression.

Sitting in front of a person who suffers from depression can be heartbreaking. The overwhelming feeling in my clients’ stories is of despair, helplessness, and isolation from friends and family. Sometimes it feels like no-one can really understand you. They say, “Don’t worry, be happy,” or, “Just pull yourself together.” But all those suggestions just make you feel even more isolated. Then there’s the physical pain and exhaustion.  Plus that underlying question,

“Why me?”
  • Why do I have depression?
  • Is something wrong with me?
  • Is it all in my brain? My genes?
  • Will I have to keep this fake smile all my life?
  • Will I have to keep taking pills that just make me feel numb to the world and give me side effects?


Many of my clients have told me that they don’t want to take antidepressants. But the messages they get is that there is no alternative. 1) 2)

Ok, here are some words about myself.

From the beginning of my career as a Psychotherapist/Hypnotherapist (or a counseling therapist if you like) in 2008, I was passionate about depression. Actually, let me paraphrase, I am passionate about helping people to step out of depression and have a better life. To really make a difference.

We have evidence now that there are particular kinds of therapy or counselling which make a difference in treating depression, 3) 4) while some therapy has proven to be counterproductive. 5)

I have been trained in an approach to treating depression that focuses on getting you feeling better quickly. Often the first step is to address the stress levels which are exhausting your body and mind, and to make sure that you understand how depression works and why you are feeling the way that you do.

This approach is based on the latest scientific research in the areas of neuroscience and psychology.6) Once you have a clear picture of what depression is and what causes it, you can start to take control of it. 

Many of my clients report a positive change already after the first sessionMy aim is not only to lift depression as fast possible but also empower you with the tools to keep depression at bay in the future.

But of course, depression doesn’t disappear overnight.  Below I outline some basic strategies that we will work on together.

How to get out of depression?

Understanding the cycle of depression is the first step in defeating it. 

The next step is to look at different aspects of your life and discover together how to break that cycle in as many places as possible. Since we are looking at a system here, changing one aspect will create a domino effect that will have a positive effect on other parts of your life.

We will work together to:

  • reduce the amount of worrying and introspection you are doing
  • resolve any practical problems that are causing you stress
  • if you have suffered past trauma (PTSD) we will decondition your brain (de-traumatize) using the safe, relaxed and very effective hypnotic Rewind technique
  • work on any relationship difficulties you may be having
  • help you balance your thinking so you are not plagued by negative thoughts
  • as you feel better, gradually introduce elements to your life that will protect you from becoming depressed again

I use Hypnosis to deeply relax the exhausted brain, to rehearse new behaviour and to create change in the instinctive (unconscious) part of your brain.


Book a session today and begin your journey to healthy happier life.

“The most sensible way to lower rates of depression is…

to spread accurate information among the general public about what depression is.”

Breaking the Cycle of Depression – Joe Griffin & Ivan Tyrrell, The European Therapy Studies Institute

Why am I depressed? Knowledge is power.

Below is a more in-depth explanation of the cycle of depression. I know it can look a bit much. Especially if you are stressed or exhausted it is hard to take in information sometimes. Don’t worry, if you just get the gist of it that’s fine. It is here to give you a basic overview and we will walk through it in the session.

What is Depression?

Depression is on the increase.  People born after World War 2 are ten times more likely to suffer depression than those born before. 7) In Western society, about one in 10 men and one in 4 women will have a major depression in their life (with men being more likely to commit suicide). Currently, 300 million people suffer from depression globally.8) Depression can really ‘suck’ the life force out of a person life leaving him/her feeling helpless, empty and exhausted physically and emotionally. This rapid increase in depression shows that the cause of depression is usually not biological or genetic, genes cannot change in such a short time9)

To understand and treat depression we need to look at a bigger picture.

Here are some reasons why people may become depressed:

  • Breakdown of the extended family and community creates feelings of isolation. (In closed societies like the Amish in the US or remote tribes in New Guinea depression is unknown).
  • High-stress levels for long period of time, creating an increased amount of stress hormones.
  • Negative explanation of the self and of events in the world.  (This can be learned from parents/caretakers, and is the reason why depression ‘runs in families’).
  • Excessive worrying and ruminating on thoughts of the past.
  • An increased focus on material wealth.
  • Overwhelming negative information presented in the news.
  • Unrealistic expectation and standard presented in media.

“We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them”.

 Albert Einstein

Common signs of depression.

  • You feel miserable and sad
  • You feel exhausted a lot of the time, mostly in the mornings
  • Sometimes even the smallest task can seem impossible
  • You rarely enjoy things you use to enjoy
  • Feeling anxious, like something is going wrong but you don’t really know what
  • You find it difficult to think clearly
  • Feelings of guilt and failure
  • Afraid to be a burden on others
  • You sometimes feel like life is not worth living
  • Feeling like there is no future, no options or hope
  • Feeling more irritable and angry
  • Very jumpy, especially  with loud noises
  • You feel you have no confidence
  • Spending a lot of the time thinking about what went wrong in the past or will go wrong in the future
  • You feel that life is unfair
  • Find it difficult to sleep or wake-up very early in the morning and unable to go back to sleep
  • Feel more physical pain with no apparent physical cause

It is this broad spectrum of symptoms that keep people confused about what depression is. No explanation so far really explains it fully. Naturally, as an individual, you might experience only some of these symptoms or a variation of them.


Don’t just take my word for it. Read what past clients say.

I have noticed so much change in my life since my session with Etai, I gained confidence and am able to be in public settings without anxiety or panic setting in.  I have found ease around meeting new people and gained strength in facing others.  Thank you so much for your guidance and your gift of healing. I have joined a local gym again and am getting back in shape, I used to be a runner and cardio kick boxer but after the accident I lost interest in things important to me.  I have found the confidence to rejoin these activities and it feels amazing!

A. Ledieu, (USA)*

Since being a child I have had heavy issues in relation to my parents, partners and negative thinking which resulted in low self-esteem, self-worth, suicidal thoughts, trust issues and depression. I have had a conventional therapy which caused so much pain with the ‘digging’ and didn’t really help me! I went to see Etai in a totally desperate state with the world on my shoulders and in a very, very dark low place. Etai was my savoir. I walked out from seeing him weightless, ‘happy’ and giggling to myself. That night I slept through for the 1st time in months. I would not have believed that one painless relaxing session has made me into a 48 year young confident woman with a positively exciting future ahead. Thank you ‘my genie’ Etai.

Debs (UK)*

“After a year of depression and six months of conventional therapy, I finally came to my senses and had a session with Etai. The very next day I awoke feeling as if a giant load had been lifted from my shoulders. Following the second (and final!) session I felt a complete return to my old sunny self. I was literally singing his praises in the street! Thank you so much Etai!”

Gen P (Amsterdam)*

I am better able to deal with the problems that had always been there.  There are still those moments when I need to check myself and remind myself to react in a more mindful manner.  But I have found that I feel more open to people – A better friend, better daughter, better listener.

K. Jantzen (USA)*

How does the cycle of depression work?

Having a good night’s sleep is important for our wellbeing. We all dream every night, yet people have asked why we dream since the start of humanity. One of the reasons that have been found recently by scientists like Joe Griffin from the Human Givens Institute is an unfulfilled emotional expectation that we accumulate but don’t fully resolve.

What does that mean? Well, for example, if you are worried about something but then either calm down about the situation or actively problem solve, then you have completed an emotional circuit and your brain is clear, it is resolved.

If you don’t manage to relax or problem-solve, then those worries will need to be completed and ‘flushed out’ which happens naturally through the REM state while you’re dreaming.

However, if you worry a lot and explain your situation through a black-and-white, all-or-nothing lens, and ruminate  (chew on ideas and memories mostly about past events that you can’t change), then emotional expectations are not resolved which creates a lot of emotional stress and release of stress hormones such as cortisol. 10)

The more unresolved emotions we have in a day, the more we will dream at night in order to flush those emotions out in preparation for the next day. Indeed researchers have found that depressed people will dream 75% more per night than people without depression. 11)

While dreaming (REM state) the brain is very active, similar to awake times, and it stops producing serotonin ( a feel-good hormone) which is responsible for moods, pain control and motivation to move. A depressed person will have more dream time and less deep calm sleep. Deep calm sleep is responsible for the recuperation of the body and immune system. In the morning the person will wake up feeling exhausted, lacking motivation and with physical pains.

This will cause more negative thinking and worrying, more emotional arousal and so the cycle continues.


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“Since you have seen my descent, come and see my rise.

Do the sun and the moon suffer any harm in their setting?.”


Let’s look a bit deeper into that cycle.

Of course, that cycle will have an effect on many aspects of our life. Serotonin regulates our feeling of satisfaction. The lack of it will make activities that we used to like seem tasteless. In turn, we will tend to withdraw and further isolate ourselves, which will create even less satisfaction and get in the way of meeting our basic needs. 12)

Here is a list of our basic needs as humans,

  • Giving and receiving attention
  • Taking care of our bodily physical needs (exercise, fresh air, good night sleep, good nutrition)
  • Sense of safety and security
  • Sense of belonging to a community and making contribution
  • Need for challenge and creativity
  • The need for intimacy
  • Basic sense of control
  • Sense of status
  • Need for meaning — purpose and goals
  • Quiet time, time for self-reflection
People that suffer from depression will miss most or all of those basic needs, in some cases they will try to meet them in an inappropriate way eg. overuse of alcohol or overeating.

Below is a more elaborate version of the cycle of depression.

As you can see depression affects many aspects of your life and creates additional downward spirals (marked by the different coloured arrows). It is enough to look at this diagram to get overwhelmed! Not to worry, I would mainly like you to notice the orange blobs that represent where we can begin to create change.

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Is online therapy is not suitable for you?

Online therapy is generally not appropriate if you are in a high risk category including severe mental illness or highly acute symptoms such as suicidal thoughts or psychosis. This is not 24/7 help line and I can’t promise immediate response. If you feel suicidal right now please contact hotline help in your country. This service is not appropriate for:

  • Young people under 13 years
  • Anyone under adult age, according to regulations of your respective country, without parental approval and guidance
  • People living in a place with low quality or limited internet service
  • People who have difficulty operating a computer or mobile device

If you in doubt, just contact me and will talk about it.

How many sessions will it take?

Well, that’s difficult to say before starting work with you but international guidelines for the treatment of depression state that the client should experience a significant improvement within 6 sessions. I always aim to make a difference as quickly as possible in the way that you feel day-to-day and that is often after the first session.

What if I relapse?

The evidence is that effective psychotherapy is more effective than drug treatments in preventing relapse because in good therapy you learn what is causing the depression and get strategies to ensure it doesn’t return. Once you understand how depression works, you are in a much better position to prevent its return.

I'm on antidepressants - can you treat me?

As long as you tolerate the antidepressants well – in other words, they don’t make you feel radically different to how you normally feel as a person when not depressed – that’s fine. It can be tricky if they are really having a strong effect on your psychology though, in which case you might want to speak to your doctor about whether it is appropriate to lower your dose before coming for therapy.

We Can Do It Together


You are not alone!

Throughout the years I’ve seen countless people who regain their life. They got their energy back, found new interests and built better relationships.

With the help of a solution-focused approach, CBT, mindfulness, and hypnosis we can break this cycle for good.  Helping you to get out of depression. Having the tools and knowledge to enable you to live your life freely.


Book a session today and begin your journey to healthy happier life.

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I do not claim these stories, opinions and results described represent the typical result that someone who purchases my products or services can generally expect to achieve.

Your results may differ greatly and no claims, promises or guarantees are being made or implied about the average, typical or expected results of consulting with me by phone or video, or by following any other information on this site.

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